He came home late last night and the moment he walked in, I could see he was dead on his feet. He was at work for more than 12 hours straight. While walking to the bedroom to undress, he started telling me about his day at work. We have interesting conversations about his world at work; his world was my world for a long, long time. I used to be in IT, he is still there. I am so blessed to be home, no longer part of the rat race in the corporate world. But he still is. He provides for me, so that I can nurture him and our household.
As he walked in to the bedroom, he lifted up his foot, and put it on the bed to untie his shoe laces. Yes, ON the bed. On the bed was my knitted aran afghan, and a Moroccan silk throw that cost quite a pretty penny. I didn’t want a dirty shoe on either of those. In a split second, I had to decide between moaning, and keeping quiet. I chose to keep quiet.
Let me give you a small piece of advice. If you choose to focus on negative issues, negative issues will be all that you see eventually. If you start complaining about one annoying habit your partner has, you will start to notice all the others. If you start to nag about those, your marriage will probably fall apart. When we are young, we think we are perfect. As we grow older, we realise how little we know, and how insignificant we are in the bigger scheme of things. My afghan wasn’t important. My silk throw wasn’t important. My husband, willing to share his day with me – that was important.
This morning, I sat and wondered how to solve my little problem. The yarn in my afghan was expensive, and the labour was many hours. There had to be a way for me to enjoy using the afghans I had made, without becoming the proverbial dripping tap about where he puts his foot when he takes his shoe off.
I went to the habby shop! Three meters of upholstery fabric @ R55 pm, solved my problem.
Yes it is a bit too big; we are currently sleeping on the queen size bed from the spare room. We gave our bedroom suite to our son, and our new king size bed will only be here at the end of the month. I bought it for the big bed, not the temporary one. It has all my happy colours in, and then some more! I love it.
Problem solved. When it’s dirty, I can wash it. If worn out, I can replace it.
Take my advice; there is a reason King Solomon wrote about a nagging wife and compared her to a dripping tap. Don’t be like that. Don’t focus on the negative issues. Focus on the positive ones. Make a small plan with the negatives ones.
The GOOD stuff in your relationship, deserves all the attention! Focus on the good stuff. I have a wonderful, God-given husband. That, is GOOD.